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Jan 3 | Written By Jenn Kautsch

My #1 Tip to Gain Control of Your Drinking

Do you ever feel alone in your relationship with alcohol?

Today we are going to be talking about the #1 tool that has helped me gain control in my relationship with drinking…

CONNECTION!

It’s kind of a buzzword right now with social distancing going on, but I’m talking about even before that.

When I first started my journey, I was living so isolated in my relationship with drinking and in this area of my life…

I was keeping everything inside and in my own head. It was all really internalized.

I don't know about y'all, but for the longest time I felt like things were black and white.

All or nothing.

I felt like I could be a “normal Drinker” that had a totally cool relationship with alcohol. Like it wasn’t a problem for me and I didn't ever need to think about it.

Or I must be an “alcoholic” who needed a label or was at the end of the spectrum.

But that black and white thinking wasn’t my actual experience.

I found myself in the MIDDLE. Literally I was in this “gray area” drinking zone.

Drinking had become a habit that had crept in my life. Very subtly.

Pouring a glass while I was cooking dinner and then slowly it turned into a bottle over the evening.

I thought I was the only one. I thought I was ALONE.

What I found though is that I was not alone, at all.

There's so many women who, maybe you're included, can understand what I'm talking about.

You're so mindful by day. Exercising, drinking your green juice… but by the 5 o’clock comes around you just want to check out.

Suck in this mindless sipping state.

So how do you break out of the rut?

The #1 antidote for me has been CONNECTION.

Knowing I’m not feeling alone and knowing hey other people are struggling with this too.

It’s not a moral failure. There's nothing really wrong with me.

It’s part of the substance, our society and just getting stuck in the rut.

I call it the Venus flytrap because I got sucked in.

So for me, and I think for you and many women that I've gotten to know through Sober Sis, this has been what has unlocked us from the trap.

That what so many of us are failing in, is this connection piece.

Again, not trying to solve each other's problems but just identifying that we have the same struggle, has been a game-changer.

So if you're anything like me and you too are trying to fight this battle in your own head I just want to encourage you to get out of your own way and invite people in.

Invite people into the struggle.

There are so many of us that feel this way that I'm just excited to let you know that you're not alone.

The power of connection is scientifically proven (as well as just relationally proven) to seriously get you from feeling stuck, alone and isolated to feeling connected, well-supported and loved.

So don't underestimate the power of connection in this area.

There are safe places for you to just talk about it. That's why I created Sober Sis. It’s a place to wrestle out loud in your relationship with alcohol.

Without labels. Without shame. Without having to say forever or always.

I just wanted a safe place where I can walk in and be myself, but not have it figured out. Even if I’m not ready to draw all the big lines in the sand.

So that's my tip for you today.

I hope wherever you are and whatever you're doing that you're connecting and that you're letting people see the real you.

And realize that there's so many other people, women especially, that can identify with you and that you're never alone.

Your sis,

Jenn 💕